Psychiatrists and psychologists have higher incidence of mental illness in themselves!

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Psychiatrists and psychologists treat mental issues of their patients. But what about their own mental illnesses?  Psychiatrists and psychologists are more ill mentally  Doctors   are in great stress during their training as well as career period. The workload, busy and fast life schedules, and higher expectations and competitiveness and the nature of the job itself leads to a sense of exhaustion, both physical and mental. There is a heavy burnout. Moreover, time for socialization is almost nil.  Hence, doctors are in grave risk of suffering from mental health illnesses. And in this, psychiatrists and psychologists have a higher risk and incidence of mental health issues.  It is a sad truth that psychiatrists and psychologists are more ill mentally than general public or other doctors. This has been known but not accepted and recognised sufficiently.  Also, read: Narcissist mothers are non-loving and jealous of their daughters  Studies have revealed that psychiatrists and psychologists
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Sex behavior: the status of being asexual or minimally sexually active rising! Why?

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Social barriers of coupling and having sex are fewer for the newer generation. Sex is equally enjoyable and means to enhance the pleasures are also available. Yet this generation youth is having sex less frequently. 

Stats on sex behavior

CDC keeps a survey analysis of teen sex and it found that sex in this age group is declining since 1985. National Opinion Research Council at the University of Chicago since 1972 is doing the regular General Social Survey of American behavior. The findings show that doing sex once a week was 45% in 2000 and it declined to 36% in 2016. And the number of young millennials who are inactive on the sexual front s twice the number seen in the previous generation. This decline was steep from 2014 to 2016.  

In 2016, 4% fewer condom sales occurred than in the year 2015. Anda drop further of 3% was noticed in 2017.  The fertility rate has also fallen. Thus people are into less sexual drive. Is it normal? What are the reasons?

Is less sexual drive abnormal?

There are many people who are either into less sex or not at all doing it. These might be married, in a relationship, or just single. But they do not feel the urge for it. Those in marital or sexual relationship also are happy without it. They do not need sex to keep their relationship going. For them, emotional intimacy takes prime position compared to sexual intimacy. Traditional thinking would feel that this is abnormal. But Dr. Melissa Fabello, a sexologist and sex researcher asserts:

“The truth is that low sex drives are normal. It’s normal for sex drives to shift over the course of your life. It’s normal to be asexual. A lack of interest in sex is not inherently a problem.”

Modern thinking says that sex is not an essential health activity but is just a n optional health activity. Not wanting sex is not dysfunctional. 

Reasons for not wanting sex

Intimacy is not a slave of sex. People are increasingly finding activities that are more fulfilling. The virtual world has made it possible for people to enjoy other things in a better way and there now seems to be no dearth of such tasks to learn and have fun and sense of achievement. 

Asexual lifestyle common in young people (Source: Pinterest)

There are also some who do not like it. Many also prefer singlehood due to fears about unhappiness and cheating risk in relationships. And there are some who really have no time for it. But they are nonetheless, loving and sensitive and romantic people. It is just that they have 'deleted sex' out of their lives but this has not minimized their quality of life. They are, in fact, leading a more satisfying life. For most of these people, self-control is strong. After all, sex and reproduction are in the category of primitive instincts controlled at the lower brain level. And the cortical brain can have some control over it naturally or with training. English writer Aldous Huxley had said:

"An intellectual is a person who's found one thing that's more interesting than sex."

Many such people are 'married' to their 'careers' and enjoy every bit of their lives in it. 

So what makes the lives of such couples happy?

Couples have different levels of maturity. For some, sex is vital in a relationship and for others it is less important. These enjoy emotional intimacy more than physical intimacy. 

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Physical intimacy could be sexual intercourse or mere skin hunger. The latter is the desire to have skin or lip contact with the loved one and includes hugging, cuddling, holding hands, or kissing. It releases oxytocin in the body that makes a person happy and feel secure. 

Whatever makes a person or couple happy is okay. But sex is not a prerequisite for a healthy relationship or good life. At the end, I would just like to quote the gorgeous American actress Bette Davis who said:

"Sex is God's joke on human beings."

And she was married four times, divorced four times, and had three children. 

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