The emotionally detached loveless mother!

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Imagine a mother who is physically present but mentally and emotionally absent. This could be due to two factors: 1. Normal mother who hates family or children - this could be a cultural problem, or upbringing problem or an individual level problem  2. Abnormal mother who is emotionally detached and loveless  In both cases, imagine the plight of the family. The husband expects certain help, support and understanding from his wife for family and children. But it is absent. There is sex but no love. The mother is unable to pick up social cues and is selfish. She starts masking techniques and starts blaming husband or family for anything that goes wrong around. She does not understand the protectiveness of her husband and never engages in a proper conversation on it.  She does cooking for family but is not emotionally attached to them. Her children are confused and do not learn anything about social behaviour from her. She uses deception to remain in power but has poor decep...
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Sex toys for rehabilitation of rape and sexual violence victims and survivors

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Sex toys are a controversial subject. There are legal and ethical objections to its use and hence sale. But it's good and useful potentials are being overlooked. 

No need to hide face. Rape was not your fault (Source: USA victims of rape) 

Sex toys in rape survivors 

One very important role of sex toys is in recovery phase of rape and sexual violence survivors. The counseling sessions take care of emotional and psychological aspects post-rapes but the sexual recovery is rarely discussed properly and in detail. Dutch designer Nienke Helder has made tools for this purpose. She said:

"The tools are an opportunity to explore your personal sexual recovery,”

She named her collection Sexual Healing. It includes a horsehair brush for touch and tickling, a mirror to assist the victim have a view of the vulva region, a pelvic device that vibrates and informs when  muscles are tensed, and a bean-shaped sensor that is lit up if the victim breathes heavily and fast.


She adds:

 “By getting biofeedback through the tools, you can visualise what kind of processes are happening inside your body, which can help you understand in which situations your body reacts with a reflex."

Associations working for such rape victims 

Role of sex toys in marriages? 

Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium in East London is a similar female-focused sex shop with an extensive array of tools and teaching materials for such victims. NHS is its guide. Renée Denyer, the shop’s manager and in-house sex educator states:

 “Unfortunately, many health professionals are still not comfortable talking about sex,”  

 “For survivors of sexual assault and rape, their body is taken away from them. But when women are ready to start thinking about sex, after they’ve had therapy and counselling, there is nowhere to go, so we made that space.”

"Especially for those who experienced abuse from childhood, they very early on learned to tune out when any sort of sexual touch is happening,”

“Even later in life when they are with a chosen partner, they’ll dissociate because that’s what they’ve been conditioned to do. We work on trying to fix that.”

Special sex toys for rape victims (Source: The Guardian) 

Most of these sex toys for such people are the non-penetrative type that allow them to explore their sexual experiences on their own and comfortably after their crude experience on it. Their recovery is improved and they get closer to a happy sexual life. 

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