Educated daughters vs strong daughters: The difference

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Indian government, Indian law, and pro-female organizations in that land talk about increasing education of girls and women. I get very amused at this ineffective and useless propoganda that does nothing great to help the girl child and women. This is because most women even if educated are unable to continue work, career or do entrepreneurship because their parents or in-laws or community will not allow them. So it means educate them for namesake and then make them stagnant to do caring and cooking jobs at home. In short, educate them and again throw them in the same gutter or furnace as before. Education gives them no financial independence, no autonomy, no freedom to decide for self or children. Then what is the role of education for them? Nothing. I pity the parents who think that educating a daughter makes them finish their duty towards her. They continue to rear her as a cow or sheep. The net result is an educated women with no respect or autonomy and no space of her own. This ca...
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The first Christmas after a divorce or separation-How to handle it?

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Divorce is hard and trying time for the couple and their kids. It becomes more painful as Christmas approaches because traditionally, Christmas is time spend with family and friends. The feeling of loneliness gets amplified and people feel the pinch of divorce more at this time of the year. Many people get depressed if they are divorced and single at this time. 

Post-divorce and Christmas

After separation from a love partner and the approaching of the first Christmas after that is to be in a really bad state emotionally. Christmas is a holiday time to spend with family and friends. And when the family and kids are missing, it is extremely hard to bear. Loneliness creeps in. The usual time of the year, one is busy with work and career. But since Christmas time is a time of holidays from work, this distraction is also not there to keep one's mind occupied. And then you hear people talking about family and also see them enjoying time with their loved ones. 

Post-divorce first Christmas is a hard time for kids [Source: Great Lakes Divorce Financial Solutions]

It is humanly natural to feel depressed and be melancholic at this time after the divorce. The feelings get magnified and it is difficult to concentrate anywhere else. Some people break down with this while others put in their best to cope with the situation. It only makes them tough with time. But all of these recently lonely people worry a lot about what they will do during Christmas and how they will celebrate it. 

How to handle the first Christmas after divorce? 

It goes without saying that there is absolutely no benefit in worrying too much about your state. It fetches nothing. You will have to find the fun in what you have and enjoy it. If there are kids, you can have not one but two Christmas. It will be a win-win situation both for you and your partner. And the kids will also definitely enjoy it. After all, who will not like having two Christmas celebrations instead of one? So get excited and also let your kids know about it. 

Post-divorce first Christmas [Source: Divorce magazine]

If your family cannot be with you for some reason, why not invite some single friends over for lunch or dinner and have a gala time with them. If you like cooking, you can cook some delicious dishes for them or order them online or from outside. You all can have some drinks and watch your favorite shows on TV. Else you can all just sit and chat about old times and forget all the sorrows that might have entered your life. Let this be your new normal this year. 

Volunteer work and Pamper yourself

If you do not want to invite friends over for meals, you can do something different but exciting. You can put on your best look and dress and go out for some volunteering work on that day. You may visit an orphanage or a shelter home and help to bring back the smiles on the inmates of those homes. You may visit an old age home and get some happiness trying to make the aged people happy. It will be a challenge for you and this new occupation might give you a lot of internal peace and happiness. 

Volunteer for Christmas [Source: Volunteering Solutions]

Remember that as a human it is natural to cry. Hence to not hold yourself back as crying is part of the healing process. Try to be in the midst of supportive and loving people. Keep your feelings positive. Instead of feeling low, you can now spend Christmas time for yourself. This 'you time' might help you to know yourself better. Besides, try to find out what hobby or leisure-time activity excites you and try to learn or do it. You can go out on a small trip somewhere alone and enjoy the time with nature. Pamper yourself-a thing you might not have done for some time now. Take the opportunity and start planning for the next year. 

Things happen in life that I beyond our control. But what is more important is how you handle it and get the most of even the difficult time. 

Also, read on https://healthfitnessnwellnessblog.blogspot.com/2020/11/loneliness-usa-coronavirus-pandemic.html


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