The emotionally detached loveless mother!

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Imagine a mother who is physically present but mentally and emotionally absent. This could be due to two factors: 1. Normal mother who hates family or children - this could be a cultural problem, or upbringing problem or an individual level problem  2. Abnormal mother who is emotionally detached and loveless  In both cases, imagine the plight of the family. The husband expects certain help, support and understanding from his wife for family and children. But it is absent. There is sex but no love. The mother is unable to pick up social cues and is selfish. She starts masking techniques and starts blaming husband or family for anything that goes wrong around. She does not understand the protectiveness of her husband and never engages in a proper conversation on it.  She does cooking for family but is not emotionally attached to them. Her children are confused and do not learn anything about social behaviour from her. She uses deception to remain in power but has poor decep...
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Narcissist mothers are jealous of their daughters!

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 Narcissist mothers and their causes

Normal mothers are proud of their daughters and talk high of them in society and with friends. These are also the mothers who truly love their children including daughters. But sadly enough, there are some mothers who do not shower love on their kids, especially daughters. Culture has a major role to play in it. In some cultures, where daughters are considered 'alien' who has to go to her husband's house, it is common to find that parents and mothers are not good or loving to their daughters. The way a mother herself was brought up in her childhood also determines whether she will love her children truly or not. Moreover, there are many mothers who are after social status and honor and do not like their daughters to do anything different from what the society has set up for them. 

Implications for daughter's growth

Whatever be the reason for this no love for their daughters, but such mothers can be detrimental for the proper growth of their daughters. They can be a negative influence on their family and even lead to its ruin. Such mothers are narcissist and are jealous of their daughters either because of the latter's beauty or success in life. It is sad that such a mother does not consider her daughter as a friend even when the latter has attained adulthood. She continues to try to boss and unhealthily criticize her and this only harms the relations. Such a mother is not ready to accept the fact that her daughter has more knowledge than her. She does not want to learn from her and just sneers at her. Such mothers do not want their daughters to outshine them or have good relations with their father. She smothers and confuses her daughter and causes hurdles in her normal development.

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Often, people falsely believe that to be envied is good. But this can be so only if the person envying is an outsider and harmless. But if it is a close relative such as a mother, it is an awful feeling for the person envied. Also, if such a mother harms her daughter in some way either physically or emotionally, it is not good. Such a mother tries to erase the sense of self in the daughter and unnerves her. The daughter gets psychologically disturbed and sometimes can never come out of this trauma. 


Therapy and prevention

Such a daughter might need psychological support and removal from the foul environment. Moreover, prevention is always better. Hence, families and mothers need to be counseled and taught child care in order to have happier families with no emotional or physical trauma. 


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