Educated daughters vs strong daughters: The difference

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Indian government, Indian law, and pro-female organizations in that land talk about increasing education of girls and women. I get very amused at this ineffective and useless propoganda that does nothing great to help the girl child and women. This is because most women even if educated are unable to continue work, career or do entrepreneurship because their parents or in-laws or community will not allow them. So it means educate them for namesake and then make them stagnant to do caring and cooking jobs at home. In short, educate them and again throw them in the same gutter or furnace as before. Education gives them no financial independence, no autonomy, no freedom to decide for self or children. Then what is the role of education for them? Nothing. I pity the parents who think that educating a daughter makes them finish their duty towards her. They continue to rear her as a cow or sheep. The net result is an educated women with no respect or autonomy and no space of her own. This ca...
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Narcissist mothers are jealous of their daughters!

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 Narcissist mothers and their causes

Normal mothers are proud of their daughters and talk high of them in society and with friends. These are also the mothers who truly love their children including daughters. But sadly enough, there are some mothers who do not shower love on their kids, especially daughters. Culture has a major role to play in it. In some cultures, where daughters are considered 'alien' who has to go to her husband's house, it is common to find that parents and mothers are not good or loving to their daughters. The way a mother herself was brought up in her childhood also determines whether she will love her children truly or not. Moreover, there are many mothers who are after social status and honor and do not like their daughters to do anything different from what the society has set up for them. 

Implications for daughter's growth

Whatever be the reason for this no love for their daughters, but such mothers can be detrimental for the proper growth of their daughters. They can be a negative influence on their family and even lead to its ruin. Such mothers are narcissist and are jealous of their daughters either because of the latter's beauty or success in life. It is sad that such a mother does not consider her daughter as a friend even when the latter has attained adulthood. She continues to try to boss and unhealthily criticize her and this only harms the relations. Such a mother is not ready to accept the fact that her daughter has more knowledge than her. She does not want to learn from her and just sneers at her. Such mothers do not want their daughters to outshine them or have good relations with their father. She smothers and confuses her daughter and causes hurdles in her normal development.

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Often, people falsely believe that to be envied is good. But this can be so only if the person envying is an outsider and harmless. But if it is a close relative such as a mother, it is an awful feeling for the person envied. Also, if such a mother harms her daughter in some way either physically or emotionally, it is not good. Such a mother tries to erase the sense of self in the daughter and unnerves her. The daughter gets psychologically disturbed and sometimes can never come out of this trauma. 


Therapy and prevention

Such a daughter might need psychological support and removal from the foul environment. Moreover, prevention is always better. Hence, families and mothers need to be counseled and taught child care in order to have happier families with no emotional or physical trauma. 


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